February 2025

  • I Didn’t Realise Space From My Parents would Feel Like This

    “My life with them had been one constant rollercoaster and I just needed to get off. I needed to recover.” 6 months ago, almost to the day, was the most important day of my life. My wedding day. 18 months in the making, my now wife and I had created a small but intimate gathering. Read more

  • Success #1

    “Today I am in control and I will not let shame turn me into someone I don’t want to be.” It’s my intention to start documenting my proud moments. In a few years hopefully I’ll have pages and pages of success stories. Then, when I’m having a day where I feel like I can’t do Read more

  • One Step Forward Two Steps Back

    I had a real bad moment a couple of days ago. After 2 weeks of complete calm and not letting anything trigger me, I completely let shit hit the fan. Over something as stupid as washing dishes. My wife came home to find the dishes stacked up to the ceiling after days of me putting Read more

  • The One Truth I Wish I Had Grasped Sooner

    So much of my adult life has been wasted blaming myself for not being attentive enough to my parents. I grew up in a very dysfunctional environment where co-dependency, amongst several other unhealthy dynamics, was alive and thriving. It wasn’t immediately noticeable to me that there was even a problem. For me it was all Read more

  • A Year of Therapy and Still Struggling. Was it a Waste?

    Absolutely not. Are there days where it feels like I am no closer to being regulated? Yes but that’s because of my impatience and, on some days, lack of trust in the process. There are other days where I sit back and feel a lot of pride in how far I’ve actually come. Coincidentally these Read more

  • Who Am I?

    Welcome to Writing to Heal. My name is Carly. I am a thirty something newlywed navigating the world of trauma and healing. Why am I starting this blog? Because my therapist told me I should a good while ago, and I am finally listening. It’s taken me forever to feel brave enough to actually do Read more